Monday, 11 November 2013

Sacrifice To Lower Your Gaze



Well, here is an interesting story to start up this article.
A man goes to a Sheikh and says:
“Oh sheikh, I’ve been married for year and I have kids but in the past few years I’ve noticed I’m not attracted to my wife any
longer.” 
The sheikh starts to ask him why? Has she gained any weight?
Man: No, she looks the same. 
Sheikh: Did she get into an accident, did something deform her image? 
Man: No, she looks the same. 
So the sheikh asks “Do you have a hard time lowering your gaze when women walk past you? Do you have issues with pornography?”
Man: Yeah, how did you know about that?
Sheikh: 
-”When you indulge in Haraam, 
– when you fall in love with the Haraam, 
– when you eat, sleep, and breathe in the Haraam, 
– then the Halal becomes disgusting to you.”
Imagine the day when the Angel of Death takes your soul and you are placed in your grave, alone. Imagine experiencing punishments in the grave for things you did in this world that you knew you shouldn’t  How regretful will you feel that you couldn’t lower your gaze and stop interacting with the opposite gender inappropriately? Just imagine how deeply you will regret not giving up these trivial, worthless things in this world when you had the chance. We are so blessed to be given guidance in this life, and yet we push it aside again and again in pursuit of our selfish desires and things that make ourselves feel good *temporarily*.
When will we learn to sacrifice? When will we learn to control our selves, to break our desires, and adopt the characteristics and mannerisms loved by Allah instead? Yes, it might be hard to lower your gaze, and yes it might be hard to leave the house dressed modestly in today’s society, and yes it might be hard to end a haram relationship, Remember the punishment for these sins in the grave and in the Hereafter is much harder. 
Learn to sacrifice for your hereafter. Learn to sacrifice for Allah. Sacrifice in this life, in order to gain in the next. Once you take that first step towards Allah , and sacrifice something dear to you for His sake, He will give you the strength and forbearance to keep improving yourself and only then will you really taste the sweetness of striving for the sake of Allah. Sadly, as Muslims, we pride ourselves as a people who submit only to the will of Allah Almighty, and yet many of us submit to the will of society, magazines, popular culture, and our own selves instead. Many of the Muslims proudly proclaim that Islam has liberated us, yet we are just as caught up in fashion and appearances and society’s notion of what an ideal Muslim should look like as non-Muslims are. 
When you lower your gaze you rise in status.